Kids can be so mean, and girls can be especially caddy. Check out this article on raising girls who are nice. It’s really good insight.
It’s really hard sometimes to get past the things that have hurt us. We tend to get so caught up in them that we can’t even see what is happening in the here and now; and what’s worse, we can’t find hope in the future.
So what do you want to do with your future? What do you really want to do? Go to college? Study abroad? Maybe you just want to set short term goals like making the volleyball team or getting on the honor roll. It really doesn’t matter what your goals are, the important thing is to set them. Keep pushing yourself forward. Stay away from the people that drag you down, even if that means sticking with family for now. God will send the right friends at the right time.
Don’t get so stuck on your past that you miss what’s happening around you. Let it go. Look ahead to all the exciting things you could do with your life. I’ve said it before; there is a reason God didn’t put eyes in the back of our head.
How do you define “bully”? There’s no doubt the answer to that question is different now than it would have been 50 years ago. Don’t you agree?
Fifty years ago kids were expected to get up early, do chores, walk to school, and return home to do more chores. They packed their lunch and were taught to say “yes sir”, and “no sir”
A “bully” in the 1950’s would have probably been defined as someone who singles out weak classmates and picks on them in a physical way. Hitting, kicking, punching….that was bullying. Bullies in the 1950’s stole lunch money and dumped lunch trays. At least that is what has been portrayed on television.
Fast forward to the 80’s – my era. When I was a freshman in high school I was bullied – at least in my mind it was bullying. Upper classmen took it as their duty to harass freshman. It was a right of passage. All freshman had to endure it at some level…..for me it was little clicks of students making comments and laughing at me as I walked past them. I don’t even know what they were saying. Could I have ignored it and pretended it didn’t bother me? Of course – but I wore my heart on my sleeve; and the stronger my reaction was – the worse the bullying got. If I could get to my locker and to my first class without being laughed at – it was a good day. I was bullied – and no one ever touched me. Sticks and stones…..they break your heart.
Now we have the internet. That’s the biggest change. The internet has given kids an avenue to attack even if they are not tough enough to say what they want to say to the victim’s face. It can be more harmful because what is posted online can be seen by thousands. That is the obvious harm the internet brings. Another not as obvious harm is the way the internet has caused kids to be sedentary. Instead of being outside running and playing until dark, they are staring at a computer screen all day. Not only does this open up opportunities to bully and be bullied, it causes our kids to become weak.
Wikipedia has a lengthy definition of the word bully. You can view it here :http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying. It’s more of a thesis than a simple definition. Is there really a definition? Isn’t it relative to the victim’s response?
What are some ways you have seen bullying change over the years? How do you think it will change as time passes? Will it be the same, better or worse for our grandkids?
I’m not sure I want to think about it.
on May 5, 2013
Growing up in today’s society is so very hard. I say that not because I am in your shoes, but because I see you struggling; and I am here to tell you that you will be okay! I know that I know that I know this!
God did not put you on this earth to watch you suffer. He put you here to fulfill His purpose. Let me be honest with you dear one, life is just plain hard sometimes. It doesn’t make sense, and we feel stuck and alone. It seems like at times we have no direction to go. We feel numb, abandoned, lost.
Listen to me…..”YOU ARE NOT ALONE!” Sometimes it is okay to just breath. If you need a direction to go – look upward. Talk to God like He is your only hope, because He is. It may seem like He left you alone with your struggles, but infact He is holding your hand. He is allowing this struggle because He needs you. He needs you to be strong and get through this because someday…..maybe sooner than later……someone else will be hurting; and you will be the one to say “I know how you feel, and you will be okay”
Hang on my love…..hang on tight. It’s going to be okay! We need you in this world!