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Think about your future


It’s really hard sometimes to get past the things that have hurt us.  We tend to get so caught up in them that we can’t even see what is happening in the here and now; and what’s worse, we can’t find hope in the future.

So what do you want to do with your future?  What do you really want to do?  Go to college?  Study abroad?  Maybe you just want to set short term goals like making the volleyball team or getting on the honor roll.  It really doesn’t matter what your goals are, the important thing is to set them.  Keep pushing yourself forward.  Stay away from the people that drag you down, even if that means sticking with family for now.  God will send the right friends at the right time.

Don’t get so stuck on your past that you miss what’s happening around you.  Let it go.  Look ahead to all the exciting things you could do with your life.  I’ve said it before; there is a reason God didn’t put eyes in the back of our head.

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It’s okay to just breath


ImageHello to a beautiful generation of young people.

 Growing up in today’s society is so very hard.  I say that not because I am in your shoes, but because I see you struggling; and I am here to tell you that you will be okay! I know that I know that I know this!

God did not put you on this earth to watch you suffer.  He put you here to fulfill His purpose.  Let me be honest with you dear one, life is just plain hard sometimes.  It doesn’t make sense, and we feel stuck and alone.  It seems like at times we have no direction to go.  We feel numb, abandoned, lost.

Listen to me…..”YOU ARE NOT ALONE!” Sometimes it is okay to just breath.  If you need a direction to go – look upward.  Talk to God like He is your only hope, because He is.  It may seem like He left you alone with your struggles, but infact He is holding your hand.  He is allowing this struggle because He needs you.  He needs you to be strong and get through this because someday…..maybe sooner than later……someone else will be hurting; and you will be the one to say “I know how you feel, and you will be okay”

Hang on my love…..hang on tight.  It’s going to be okay!  We need you in this world!

Pray for your enemies? Really?


It’s one of the hardest things I have ever done; but I swallowed hard and just did it – I prayed for her.  She was causing a lot of stress in my life – and I had to deal with it daily.  There was no way to get away from it. So I prayed for her.  I asked God to bless her in her life; and I asked God to help me be Jesus to her.  I didn’t want to – I wanted to choke her actually. But we all know that would not be the best way to handle it – so I prayed.  And when I did – something really cool happened.  My heart changed.  I felt more compassion for her.  I felt more patient and merciful towards her.  God gave me the tools I needed to be the Godly woman He calls me to be.  He lifted the burden of handling this all on my own.

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Ashley with her dad getting ready for karate class.

My daughter, Ashley, was being bullied – pretty severely.  She was in the 6th grade.  There was this group of 3 or 4 girls that took every opportunity they could to call her names and corner her.  One time she was in the school bathroom – minding her own business. This group of girls came in and cornered her.  She could not get away.  They begun to push her and say hurtful things to her.  When she did manage to get away –  she was so upset that we wound up at the police department that evening.  Turns out if the girls would have moved her 5′ or more while she was cornered – we could have charged them for kidnapping.  That didn’t happen of course – but it had to stop nonetheless.  So we filed our report and went home.

That evening as I was tucking my daughter into bed – we started talking about prayer.  I asked her if she had ever prayed for these girls.  One of them in particular (we will call her Kathy) was the instigator.  If she wasn’t at school – the bullying didn’t happen. So I asked her; “Ashley – have you ever thought about praying for Kathy?  You should have seen the look she gave me.  It was as if I had asked her if I had 5 eyes. I explained to her that Jesus tells us to pray for our enemies. (Matthew 5:44)  It was a hard concept for her to grasp;  And understandably so….so I prayed with her.  We prayed for Kathy.  We prayed for her almost every night for several months.

The school year came to an end and summer was here. She didn’t have any run ins with Kathy and her gang thankfully.

When the school year started back up – Ashley decided to join cross country.  Guess who else was on the team.  Yep – Kathy was on her team.  We encouraged Ashley to stick with it and we made sure we kept an eye on the situation.  Then something really cool happened.  Ashley and Kathy began to talk.  They began to run together.  They got to really know each other   Before we knew it – Ashley was asking if she could invite Kathy over to stay the night.  While her dad and I were apprehensive, we consented. We were pleasantly surprised.  Kathy turned out to be a fun girl and we enjoyed having her around.

Ashley and Kathy remain friends.  They have different goals in life and do not hang out anymore. But when they pass in the hall – Ashley gets a high five instead of a low blow.

Mercy. Love. Grace. Forgiveness. Friendship. A Life Lesson.  All of these and more were gained by following one simple teaching in the bible. Imagine what we could accomplish if we followed all  of them.

The Power of Words


Did you know (of course you realize) that the tongue

(Borrowed from http://alifetimeofwisdom.com)
So very true.

doesn’t have any bones in it.  Not one.  How is it then that the tongue can do more

damage than any other part of the body? Without moving a muscle we can wound

someone deeper than the shards of a knife or the force of a clenched fist. Physical

wounds hurt but will heal with time. They are visibly treatable and can be physically monitored.

But words……they seep into the very depths of our soul.  They are like a

parasite. Quite often words can sink so deep that we don’t know they are affecting us.

Until one day, reason not understood, they resurface.

………“Loser”, “Fat”, “Stupid”, “Ugly”, “Retard”, “Freak”……..

It’s painful just to read those reads isn’t it?

Let me ask you this, if Satan were physically visible to the human eye, and he were standing face to face with you, would you trust him? Would you believe his words? Would you have lunch with him? I would think not!  So why would you listen to his words when he is using them in such a sneaky way? Satan is very sneaky. He knows how to get into your head.  Understand this my young friend,

SATAN WANTS TO DRAG YOU INTO HIS FIRE.

Don’t give him the satisfaction.  

If you need help please use the resources I offer below.

You are not alone!  This is not the way life is meant to be. This world needs you!  I need you to hold on!

Contact me if you don’t know where else to turn.

USE THESE RESOURCES AS A STARTING POINT. GET THE HELP YOU NEED. THEN REACH OUT.  YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!

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Bullying – it has to stop.


I am so sick of hearing about all the bullying going on in our society today.  It seems like every kid is bullied these days at some point in their young life.

This past weekend I read a story about a young boy that lost his life following a beating he received on the playground at his school.  You can read about it here; http://tiny.cc/3zohtw.

I heard a song today that I think every young person should hear and really take to heart.  Please take a listen and share it with anyone you know that could use a lift.  If we all work together – we can literally save lives.  http://tiny.cc/8gzhtw.

I plan to use this page to life up an encourage victims of bullying.  You will read testimonies from kids who have endured and become stronger through it.

Who do you know that we can help?

Ashley was bullied.  Ashley has cut, and she contemplated suicide.  She is a survivor. And you can be too.
Ashley was bullied. Ashley has cut, and she contemplated suicide. She is a survivor. And you can be too.

Take some time to listen to this song by Brit Nicole

http://www.godtube.com/watch/?v=W7KL7WNX.

Take heart and know YOU are loved!